When is it okay to start dating after a divorce
Know yourself, know your children and ask yourself this key question: Is this a decision I think is best for my children, or am I reacting out of guilt or fear?
And why would you want to expose your new friend to that?Just as you like to spend time with your special friends, I also want some time to be with my friends."With pre-teens and young teens (11-14) you can broach the topic of dating after the divorce. I'm wondering how you feel about me starting to date." Note: This does not mean that you are asking your child's permission to date. You are simply initiating discussion that is likely to be ongoing.This is a good time to reassure your child that even though you are beginning to go out on dates, you will still always reserve time for just the two of you.What if my children don't like the person I am dating? On one hand, it is important for parents to listen to concerns that their children raise about new partners.Dating after divorce requires some caution on the part of adults. Gary Neuman, author of Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce the Sandcastles Way offers a list of things for parents to pay attention to.